@Introvert_Uli06 if you want to check if you have limiting belief(s) regarding this stuff, you can use a pendulum. Being a hypnotist, I came across this method a while ago.
It isn’t some mystical thing, it’s what hypnotists and others in similar fields refer to as ideomotor response.
For the pendulum, take a wet tea bag (if you drink tea), or my personal favorite is a key attached to the end of a string.
Place elbow on the table/desk. Hold the string so the key has at least 5 inches of string length.
Once you are holding it, and the key is not moving, just say (out loud or inwardly, although I personally have found out loud to work quicker for me), “Swing a certain direction to show me your YES response”
Keep in mind you are acknowledging that you are addressing the subconscious for this, so if it helps, you can address it directly.
Such as: I want You, my subconscious mind, to swing the key a certain direction to show me your YES response
Notice how the key starts swinging. It may take a few seconds to build up momentum. If you get a slight movement, you can check further by stating “If this is your YES response, amplify the response and make it more prominent” or whatever wording is best for you.
Do the same to set up a “NO” response.
I don’t bother with calibrating beyond YES/NO since I’m not interested in vague answers. If you find that a response isn’t forthcoming once you’ve moved on to asking actual questions, that’s just a cue for me to ask better questions that the SubC can answer in yes/no responses.
Once you have yes/no responses set up and calibrated with the SubC, you’ll test it on some stuff you know to be either true or false.
My name is Zedediah.
I am a pink unicorn.
I am male.
Whatever stuff you KNOW to be true and false, to make sure the SubC responses track.
Once that’s done, then you can literally say out loud (or inwardly) the beliefs you are checking for, stated like a simple affirmation.
“I am easy-going around women” (or whatever else)
If your SubC is in alignment with that particular belief, you will get a yes response. If not, you’ll get a NO response.
The cool thing is if you find a belief you WANT, but currently don’t have, you can “brute force” the belief by stating it as an affirmation until the pendulum shifts from swinging “NO” to swinging “YES”.
It is a bit limited being it’s just “YES/NO” but again, I find that enough as it helps me make sure I’m asking questions or saying things that CAN be answered simply.
There are other, faster, ways to incorporate better beliefs of course.
Instead of just affirming “I am easy-going around women,” you can ask:
“When was the first time I felt easy-going around women?” as this will presuppose that as a fact, and force the subconscious to search your personal history for examples of that idea. On top of that, asking “When is the FIRST time…” it forces it to look for 2 or more to establish which time was the FIRST.