Haha. Some people argue that wanting to get laid has driven many of the developments in history and civilization. I don’t know. But why not? Freud always talked about the power of the sexual force, the libido.
I take it from your post that you are currently 25? You sound great to me.
For sure, you’ll be able to pursue money when you want to do so. Also, I expect that some of the money stuff will happen naturally/be easier when you do get around to it, because you’re already running status- and confidence-related programs.
I remember looking through that book ‘The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck’. I think that point-of-view makes sense.
Working on relationships, on sex, on feelings and ideas about women (which ultimately leads back to feelings and ideas about yourself); those are definitely good ways to develop yourself and to invest your mind and your energy.
And yes, some people do have sex a lot with different people. Seems cool, but only if it’s actually fun and if people involved are all doing basically okay around it (healthwise and mindwise). If it’s fun and safe enough, that’s great. If it’s not fun, because it’s too filled with pressure or something, then it’s not worth it. Guess that’s where the healing comes in.
Something I wrote in an offline journal yesterday was:
Desire is a feeling about yourself that is experienced as being COMPLETELY about something else.
I think that’s probably true. For example, if I’m healthy, if my testosterone is up, if I’m feeling good—suddenly there are so many more attractive women around. hahaha. If I’m feeling a bit down and not so good about myself, the desperation starts to creep in. and so on and so on. But either way, the way I feel about other people seems to proceed pretty directly from how I’m doing. Awareness of this point is pretty slippery and elusive–hard to hold on to it. If you get sucked into the picture and lose perspective, it does seem that the desire, the pressure, the evaluations are really about her, you forget that it’s about you.
So, yeah. Anyway, you’ll probably be able to write the book on this stuff as you log more miles in your own adventure.
hmm…first of all, thanks for asking. Secondly, hmmmm…well, bruh, I’m 47 years old, 18 years into this marriage thing. I’ve got two kids and the oldest has basically moved out.
what the fuuuuck…
the short answer would be: no
but that’s not true. it’s healing. like real healing. When it comes to relationships (sex and seduction), my objective is healing.
i guess to me sex is just one very intense section of a much wider spectrum that is about Social Interaction and Energy Exchange.
And the way you want to be is to 1) be able to take care of what needs to be done or what is appropriate while 2) being relaxed and having some perspective so you can appreciate your life.
Most of us, have a whole bunch of uptight, frozen, and tense areas around this whole thing: The Give and the Take of relationships and interaction. Being able to release some of those issues but without falling apart, that’s the way to go.
I’ve got a whole bunch of stuck places and frozen places. They impact sex sure, but they go much further beyond that. So, I think that’s where I am with that stuff.
Hope that the parts of me that feel like shit can feel less like that and learn to be healthy and thrive. Hope I can have enough of a surplus of thriving that I can be patient with other people while they work through their own areas that feel scared and fucked-up. Hope to find my ginga with this life stuff. Hopefully not to take as long as this guy.